Supporting Your Recovery
Posted on April 04, 2016
It's not easy to tell others that you need help. Asking for help is something that society often tells us is weak and riddled with vulnerability. Weakness, absolutely not. Vulnerability, for sure! But what's so wrong with vulnerability? Vulnerability is not a weakness – it is strength. And being vulnerable is often required to receive the appropriate support for your recovery. You cannot do recovery on your own. Support is a vital part of the process. So how do you get the support you need?
Asking for support, as I mentioned, requires a certain level of vulnerability, risk and emotional exposure. You may need to put aside that critical voice that tells you that you don't deserve the support of others and that you need to blaze the trail on your own. This voice is probably the same one that told you that the comfort of your eating disorder was safer and cozier if you kept it secret and shut people out. This is the voice that wants you to isolate and disconnect. Learning to quiet this voice will undoubtedly be an essential step in the recovery process.
Additionally, you may also need to find sources of support that are a good fit for both you and your recovery. Seek out and stay close to those individuals that truly support your journey and support the changes that are required of you to stay on the path. You may find that people you hoped would fit into this category actually don't. Maybe they aren't ready to change with you or recognize the importance of the change that you have or will accomplish. Seeking out alternative support will then be crucial for you as you navigate this road and need help along the way.
Here are some things to remember when it comes to supporting your recovery:
- Vulnerability is a strength and required in order for you to receive the support that you will need.
- Challenge the critical voice in your head by reminding yourself that everyone deserves recovery and isolation is counter-productive to what you are trying to achieve through this journey.
- Remember that this critical voice may just be your eating disorder trying to wiggle its way back into your life. Protect your recovery!
- Seek out a support system that is supportive of your recovery and ready for change – both yours and the possibility of their own. Not everyone will fit into this category and that's okay!